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The weekly blog about our podcast, Relationsh!t.
Relationsh!t Podcast co-host, Tony Critelli, writes about the week’s topic and gives us all some much-needed insight and perspective as it relates to relationship goals and efforts.
Work & Play Sh!t
This week, we talked about the joys and challenges of working with someone you are in a romantic relationship with. The conversation definitely got a little heated but our metrics show that ya’ll like it when we fight on the air ;) We also covered a lot of good guidance from research we found online. What do you think—is it advisable to be employed where your partner is? Is it even possible to start a business and wear a suit with the person who sees your birthday suit all the time?
Marko and I have definitely seen this issue evolve for us over the years. The podcast has been a vehicle for a lot of conversations and it could have very easily led to disaster; however, I think it is thriving and we are learning more each season. More about what you want; more about how we give it to you; more about what we enjoy creatively; and more about how we work together without killing each other!
This week, we talked about the joys and challenges of working with someone you are in a romantic relationship with. The conversation definitely got a little heated but our metrics show that ya’ll like it when we fight on the air ;) We also covered a lot of good guidance from research we found online. What do you think—is it advisable to be employed where your partner is? Is it even possible to start a business and wear a suit with the person who sees your birthday suit all the time?
Marko and I have definitely seen this issue evolve for us over the years. The podcast has been a vehicle for a lot of conversations and it could have very easily led to disaster; however, I think it is thriving and we are learning more each season. More about what you want; more about how we give it to you; more about what we enjoy creatively; and more about how we work together without killing each other!
Unthankful Sh!t
This year for Thanksgiving, we decided to do something that wasn’t cliche. We spent the episode talking about all of the things that we are NOT thankful for. A few items were accidentally left off the list. Like…guys with accents without anything else interesting about them who still captivate us. Or people who insist on going to dinner in large groups, ordering more than everyone else, and then think its okay to split the check evenly. Can definitely do without those.
This time, when you are sitting around the table with your loud family or having an intimate meal with close friends, rather than share what you are grateful for, why don’t you take a crack at what we did? Share with everyone what you didn’t enjoy about the past twelve months! What are you unthankful for this year? What can you absolutely do without for the holiday season? We would love to hear from you. Write or voice memo us and let the comments fly!
This year for Thanksgiving, we decided to do something that wasn’t cliche. We spent the episode talking about all of the things that we are NOT thankful for. A few items were accidentally left off the list. Like…guys with accents without anything else interesting about them who still captivate us. Or people who insist on going to dinner in large groups, ordering more than everyone else, and then think its okay to split the check evenly. Can definitely do without those.
This time, when you are sitting around the table with your loud family or having an intimate meal with close friends, rather than share what you are grateful for, why don’t you take a crack at what we did? Share with everyone what you didn’t enjoy about the past twelve months! What are you unthankful for this year? What can you absolutely do without for the holiday season? We would love to hear from you. Write or voice memo us and let the comments fly!
Not My Parents Sh!t
This week, we talked (briefly) about the good things and (much longer) about the bad things we inherited from our parents and how they present themselves within our relationships. Marko did an amazing job by reminding us that we can focus on the good; he started the conversation by having us list all the positive things we are proud of that we learned from our parents. What are yours?
The skill this week was concrete and helped guide us toward healing and closure. There is a way that we can move beyond what we have been handed by life. You just have to do the work, right? How did this week’s topic affect you? Do you feel more empowered to take charge of your future and let go of your past? Let us know. We’d love to hear from you!
This week, we talked (briefly) about the good things and (much longer) about the bad things we inherited from our parents and how they present themselves within our relationships. Marko did an amazing job by reminding us that we can focus on the good; he started the conversation by having us list all the positive things we are proud of that we learned from our parents. What are yours?
The skill this week was concrete and helped guide us toward healing and closure. There is a way that we can move beyond what we have been handed by life. You just have to do the work, right? How did this week’s topic affect you? Do you feel more empowered to take charge of your future and let go of your past? Let us know. We’d love to hear from you!
Passing Gas Sh!t
Can I just make this post a series of onomatopoeic fart jokes? Yes? …no? OK ;)
This week, we talked about passing gas in front of each other. If you are a long-time listener, you know where Marko and I stand (errr….sit) on this issue. We very quickly began leaving the bathroom door open while doing our business. We did not, though, fart in front of each other. In fact, the first time I passed gas in front of Marko, I was startled and sure that he was going to leave me. Thankfully, he did not!
What do you all think about this? Are you completely turned off when the person you are dating passes gas? Or are you more laid back about this particular back door stuff? Let us know your thoughts on the subject! Go ahead with the comments: let one fly!
Can I just make this post a series of onomatopoeic fart jokes? Yes? …no? OK ;)
This week, we talked about passing gas in front of each other. If you are a long-time listener, you know where Marko and I stand (errr….sit) on this issue. We very quickly began leaving the bathroom door open while doing our business. We did not, though, fart in front of each other. In fact, the first time I passed gas in front of Marko, I was startled and sure that he was going to leave me. Thankfully, he did not!
What do you all think about this? Are you completely turned off when the person you are dating passes gas? Or are you more laid back about this particular back door stuff? Let us know your thoughts on the subject! Go ahead with the comments: let one fly!
Vows Sh!t
This week, we talked about the tradition of vows and how we personally prefer to write our own vows, rather than read off some old ones. But how new are our vows? Even if we opt to optimize the language and contemplate making contemporary the words that will writ us into wedded bliss, still our minds give us some pause when it comes to the words that will mark out matrimony, right?
When it comes to making vows, we went the route of writing our own. Nothing wrong or right about that: just how we chose to do things. How do you see your wedding going? Will you write your own vows? Will you stand on tradition and go a less edited route? Do you even believe in marriage at all? We would love to read your thoughts…and a blog is the only place one can do that ;) Write us and let us know what you think and feel, please!
This week, we talked about the tradition of vows and how we personally prefer to write our own vows, rather than read off some old ones. But how new are our vows? Even if we opt to optimize the language and contemplate making contemporary the words that will writ us into wedded bliss, still our minds give us some pause when it comes to the words that will mark out matrimony, right?
When it comes to making vows, we went the route of writing our own. Nothing wrong or right about that: just how we chose to do things. How do you see your wedding going? Will you write your own vows? Will you stand on tradition and go a less edited route? Do you even believe in marriage at all? We would love to read your thoughts…and a blog is the only place one can do that ;) Write us and let us know what you think and feel, please!
Supportive Sh!t
This week, we talked about what being supportive in a relationship really looks like. Mind you, the measure is whether your partner would say they feel supported, not your estimation of your own performance. That, dear listeners, may rub you the wrong way but it is still what’s right ;)
We all rank ourselves and our performance as at least slightly greater than what someone else might score. The real measure, though, has to come from the lived experience of others. We’ve got to listen to the voice of the one(s) we are trying to serve in order to truly know if we have been successful. That is true in business and it is even truer in the rest of life. Take the plunge: ask your partner, on a scale of one to ten, how supported they feel by you. If you don’t like the answer, know that the podcast will be here to help you develop the skills you need to be thought of as a supportive person.
This week, we talked about what being supportive in a relationship really looks like. Mind you, the measure is whether your partner would say they feel supported, not your estimation of your own performance. That, dear listeners, may rub you the wrong way but it is still what’s right ;)
We all rank ourselves and our performance as at least slightly greater than what someone else might score. The real measure, though, has to come from the lived experience of others. We’ve got to listen to the voice of the one(s) we are trying to serve in order to truly know if we have been successful. That is true in business and it is even truer in the rest of life. Take the plunge: ask your partner, on a scale of one to ten, how supported they feel by you. If you don’t like the answer, know that the podcast will be here to help you develop the skills you need to be thought of as a supportive person.
Scheduling Intimacy Sh!t
This week, we talked about an oft-maligned topic: planning a calendar for sex. As we explored the topic, though, we realized that it is actually not about penning in time to fuck—rather, it is about dedicating time to build a space where intimacy can thrive. And though the concept is marred by social judgement, it actually totally makes sense when you think about it.
As we said on the show, you put controls in space to ensure you are successful with your goals at work. So why not apply the same ‘hard stops’ to your…hard stops ;) It makes sense to carve out a little while to ensure that what is important to you—connecting to your partner, showing each other how much you matter to one another, giving of your vulnerabilities…show your love that they matter to you and that you want to connect with them! What is wrong with that? What do you think, listeners? Is it weird to lock in a time to be close to your romantic partner?
This week, we talked about an oft-maligned topic: planning a calendar for sex. As we explored the topic, though, we realized that it is actually not about penning in time to fuck—rather, it is about dedicating time to build a space where intimacy can thrive. And though the concept is marred by social judgement, it actually totally makes sense when you think about it.
As we said on the show, you put controls in space to ensure you are successful with your goals at work. So why not apply the same ‘hard stops’ to your…hard stops ;) It makes sense to carve out a little while to ensure that what is important to you—connecting to your partner, showing each other how much you matter to one another, giving of your vulnerabilities…show your love that they matter to you and that you want to connect with them! What is wrong with that? What do you think, listeners? Is it weird to lock in a time to be close to your romantic partner?
Blue Balls Sh!t
This week, we talked about whether blue balls are a real thing or not. Spoiler alert: they are! There is even a medical term for them. It is epididymal hypertension and the symptoms are scrotal pain or a feeling of heaviness after sustained sexual arousal without orgasm and ejaculation. The truth, though, is that it is not as painful as some may make it out to be. In fact, blue balls have often been used to manipulate someone into having sex with you. Not cool.
We all need to be responsible for respecting our partners. We need the standard to be continuous, enthusiastic consent for sexual activities, not abusive coercion. And that is exactly what bullying or blaming someone for your lack of sexual gratification is: it is preying on someone’s sympathy and weaponizing your biology against them. Cut it out. Just go jerk off and let that be that. What do you all think? Is this a soapbox that we can all stand on or am I way off base here?
This week, we talked about whether blue balls are a real thing or not. Spoiler alert: they are! There is even a medical term for them. It is epididymal hypertension and the symptoms are scrotal pain or a feeling of heaviness after sustained sexual arousal without orgasm and ejaculation. The truth, though, is that it is not as painful as some may make it out to be. In fact, blue balls have often been used to manipulate someone into having sex with you. Not cool.
We all need to be responsible for respecting our partners. We need the standard to be continuous, enthusiastic consent for sexual activities, not abusive coercion. And that is exactly what bullying or blaming someone for your lack of sexual gratification is: it is preying on someone’s sympathy and weaponizing your biology against them. Cut it out. Just go jerk off and let that be that. What do you all think? Is this a soapbox that we can all stand on or am I way off base here?
First Sight Sh!t
This week, we talked about whether love, at first sight, is actually a thing. Spoiler alert: Tony (the eternal romantic) believes that it is and Marko (not immediately identified as a romantic) is less than ready to lend his energy to supporting this concept. He might even have stated numerous things that do not show an immediate generation of this concept as a real thing he can get behind. I mean…who knew?!!
All joking aside: we both argue that the idea of ‘love at first sight’ may not be love, per se. It could be a wonderful warning that goes off when we are near enough to someone who could tear down our barriers. Or it might be an alert that assuages our assembly of alarms. Regardless of what you believe, it is an internal mechanism that deserves our time and attention. It might not be love but it is definitely a thing worth listening to while you learn more about the other person and, possibly, fall in love. We both believe that you should give credence to whatever attention-drawing is happening and let it run its full course: you will be glad that you did!
This week, we talked about whether love, at first sight, is actually a thing. Spoiler alert: Tony (the eternal romantic) believes that it is and Marko (not immediately identified as a romantic) is less than ready to lend his energy to supporting this concept. He might even have stated numerous things that do not show an immediate generation of this concept as a real thing he can get behind. I mean…who knew?!!
All joking aside: we both argue that the idea of ‘love at first sight’ may not be love, per se. It could be a wonderful warning that goes off when we are near enough to someone who could tear down our barriers. Or it might be an alert that assuages our assembly of alarms. Regardless of what you believe, it is an internal mechanism that deserves our time and attention. It might not be love but it is definitely a thing worth listening to while you learn more about the other person and, possibly, fall in love. We both believe that you should give credence to whatever attention-drawing is happening and let it run its full course: you will be glad that you did!
Past & Present Sh!t
This week, we talked about a very personal and very scary medical emergency that happened to us a few weeks ago. Marko and I needed to let some time pass before we shared the details with all of you. As you no doubt heard from the episode, it was very traumatic for us both so we needed the dust to settle before we brought it to our listeners. We know you understand and appreciate your giving us some time.
For me personally, I came to social services (my livelihood) after having to advocate and do systems navigation for my mother after her own medical emergency. I’ve spent most of my career teaching others how to advocate during emergencies. And we all know that Marko has a strong voice :) Still, I was surprised to discover how much fighting we had to do throughout my hospitalization and after. It just goes to show the importance of having a voice. Please do everything you can when you or a loved one are in need: as queer people, we cannot afford to be silenced in healthcare settings.
This week, we talked about ways in which your past relationships can affect your current one. Not just previous romantic relationships, either: we touch on the schema that may have been developed by your childhood relationship with primary caregivers, the patterns that were downloaded to your perception through your experiences in this world, and the ways in which your unresolved issues may play out again and again if you don’t do the work. The work, of course, being therapy.
As you all know, we are huge proponents of individual and couples therapy here on the show. If you listened to the episode, you heard not only how our guest is dealing with the ways in which his past relationship is presenting obstacles to his current one but you heard (perhaps not for the first time) the way that Marko’s and my previous relationships affect our marriage. We share all of this with you because we want you to know that it is a phenomenon that we can all relate to. It is part of being human and relating to another one. Don’t let your past ruin your present…or your future. Get some help. Work through your issues. And become a brighter, fuller person!
Emergency Sh!t
This week, we talked about a very personal and very scary medical emergency that happened to us a few weeks ago. Marko and I needed to let some time pass before we shared the details with all of you. As you no doubt heard from the episode, it was very traumatic for us both so we needed the dust to settle before we brought it to our listeners. We know you understand and appreciate your giving us some time.
For me personally, I came to social services (my livelihood) after having to advocate and do systems navigation for my mother after her own medical emergency. I’ve spent most of my career teaching others how to advocate during emergencies. And we all know that Marko has a strong voice :) Still, I was surprised to discover how much fighting we had to do throughout my hospitalization and after. It just goes to show the importance of having a voice. Please do everything you can when you or a loved one are in need: as queer people, we cannot afford to be silenced in healthcare settings.
This week, we talked about a very personal and very scary medical emergency that happened to us a few weeks ago. Marko and I needed to let some time pass before we shared the details with all of you. As you no doubt heard from the episode, it was very traumatic for us both so we needed the dust to settle before we brought it to our listeners. We know you understand and appreciate your giving us some time.
For me personally, I came to social services (my livelihood) after having to advocate and do systems navigation for my mother after her own medical emergency. I’ve spent most of my career teaching others how to advocate during emergencies. And we all know that Marko has a strong voice :) Still, I was surprised to discover how much fighting we had to do throughout my hospitalization and after. It just goes to show the importance of having a voice. Please do everything you can when you or a loved one are in need: as queer people, we cannot afford to be silenced in healthcare settings.
Renaissance Sh!t
We are back y’all! The time off was much appreciated and I can’t wait to share our stories. So much fun and adventure to be shared! As much as we enjoyed the shenanigans, we are so excited about the start of season six! And what better way to usher in the new season than by talking about Marko’s idol, Beyoncé, and her new album?
Renaissance is a truly excellent piece of musical creation and artistry. As you probably could guess, Marko has had the entire album playing on repeat non-stop since it came out. I’ve become very acquainted with it and I must say that I am truly impressed. Beyoncé did an amazing job and this body of work is clearly an evolution for her. I have nothing but good things to say on the podcast episode. For our Patreon members, you get some bonus content where we rate our own playlist mix! How did our assessments measure up to yours, listeners?
We are back y’all! The time off was much appreciated and I can’t wait to share our stories. So much fun and adventure to be shared! As much as we enjoyed the shenanigans, we are so excited about the start of season six! And what better way to usher in the new season than by talking about Marko’s idol, Beyoncé, and her new album?
Renaissance is a truly excellent piece of musical creation and artistry. As you probably could guess, Marko has had the entire album playing on repeat non-stop since it came out. I’ve become very acquainted with it and I must say that I am truly impressed. Beyoncé did an amazing job and this body of work is clearly an evolution for her. I have nothing but good things to say on the podcast episode. For our Patreon members, you get some bonus content where we rate our own playlist mix! How did our assessments measure up to yours, listeners?
Marriage Sh!t
This week, we talked about marriage. A heavy topic, to be sure, and one that we haven’t discussed in a while. Marko and I checked in to see what we thought about our marriage and how we both were doing. In retrospect, this is probably something we should do more often. Even if we use the podcast as a vehicle for this, we might consider putting a bit more structure into it.
Notes for next year :) Ask each other what the other is doing well. Ask each other what we are proud of having changed or accomplished when it comes to the way we approach our husband. Ask each other what changes we have seen in our partner that we are grateful for. Ask ourselves what we still need to improve. THEN we might be in a space to safely, supportively say what we need from each other. Perhaps if we have that love bomb buffer at the beginning and then just ask for what we want, rather than blaming and finger-pointing, we might find that we are pleasantly surprised by the outcome!
This week, we talked about marriage. A heavy topic, to be sure, and one that we haven’t discussed in a while. Marko and I checked in to see what we thought about our marriage and how we both were doing. In retrospect, this is probably something we should do more often. Even if we use the podcast as a vehicle for this, we might consider putting a bit more structure into it.
Notes for next year :) Ask each other what the other is doing well. Ask each other what we are proud of having changed or accomplished when it comes to the way we approach our husband. Ask each other what changes we have seen in our partner that we are grateful for. Ask ourselves what we still need to improve. THEN we might be in a space to safely, supportively say what we need from each other. Perhaps if we have that love bomb buffer at the beginning and then just ask for what we want, rather than blaming and finger-pointing, we might find that we are pleasantly surprised by the outcome!
Chosen Family Sh!t
This week, we talked about the importance of chosen family. Let’s be honest: our biological families are a mixed bag, at best. Some are positive and supportive, some disowned us and never spoke to us again; most probably fell somewhere in the middle. So how do you fill in the gaps in education, self-worth, skill-building, stress-relief, and entertainment left by the lack of a family? You make one, of course! That’s your chosen family.
This topic is at the heart of my motivation for doing this podcast. What do we need to provide to queer youth and young adults to improve the outcomes many of us take for granted? I’m lucky in that my ‘full-blood brother’ is both my biological family and my chosen family—without him, I wouldn’t have been able to buy my first car and not get completely scammed. I remember my first non-sexual gay friend who just wanted to be in queer spaces, listening to music and laughing with me. My lung capacity was increased the first time I hung out with a long-term, queer couple. My chosen family granted me access to a much greater, richer life. How’s the size of your chosen family? Do you need to fill in some more gaps? Get out there and find your tribe. They exist.
This week, we talked about the importance of chosen family. Let’s be honest: our biological families are a mixed bag, at best. Some are positive and supportive, some disowned us and never spoke to us again; most probably fell somewhere in the middle. So how do you fill in the gaps in education, self-worth, skill-building, stress-relief, and entertainment left by the lack of a family? You make one, of course! That’s your chosen family.
This topic is at the heart of my motivation for doing this podcast. What do we need to provide to queer youth and young adults to improve the outcomes many of us take for granted? I’m lucky in that my ‘full-blood brother’ is both my biological family and my chosen family—without him, I wouldn’t have been able to buy my first car and not get completely scammed. I remember my first non-sexual gay friend who just wanted to be in queer spaces, listening to music and laughing with me. My lung capacity was increased the first time I hung out with a long-term, queer couple. My chosen family granted me access to a much greater, richer life. How’s the size of your chosen family? Do you need to fill in some more gaps? Get out there and find your tribe. They exist.
Aging Sh!t
This week, we talked about aging out of the gay mainstream. Or, rather, how old Marko and I feel and how little we are willing to put up with bullshit that we didn’t create :) Isn’t it interesting how things that seemed so important when we first entered the gay arena have become a headache that we just don’t want to engage with? We aren’t knocking what you are into: we just don’t have time for it anymore. Hand me some aspirin and leave me the heck alone!
This week, we talked about aging out of the gay mainstream. Or, rather, how old Marko and I feel and how little we are willing to put up with bullshit that we didn’t create :) Isn’t it interesting how things that seemed so important when we first entered the gay arena have become a headache that we just don’t want to engage with? We aren’t knocking what you are into: we just don’t have time for it anymore. Hand me some aspirin and leave me the heck alone!
Marko and I aren’t poo poo-ing what we all have going on this wonderful month of Pride. We aren’t even blaming COVID for how we are feeling. We just want pajamas, no-frills, an absence of commitments, and lots of snacks. Leave us here to die…its okay, you young gays can go on without us. We will be here—sipping cocktails, wishing you well. Happy being old, y’all!
Pride Sh!t
This week, we talked about pride and what it means to us this year. Annually, Marko and I celebrate queer history and reflect on what the month of June means to us. 2022 is no different…except that it is totally different! An ongoing global pandemic, uncertainty, me being 40 years old—this one is very, very unique! I hope you enjoyed hearing what it means to be a monogamous, gay, married couple to us this year!
This week, we talked about pride and what it means to us this year. Annually, Marko and I celebrate queer history and reflect on what the month of June means to us. 2022 is no different…except that it is totally different! An ongoing global pandemic, uncertainty, me being 40 years old—this one is very, very unique! I hope you enjoyed hearing what it means to be a monogamous, gay, married couple to us this year!
What does pride mean to you this year? Are you feeling a greater need to celebrate amongst your community due to all of the isolation? Are you staying safe and not taking the risk of being out in public with so many people? Are you attending a virtual event? We want to hear from you! Write in or comment on this blog. We’d love to hear from you! Happy pride y’all!
Make Out Sh!t
This week, we talked about all making out with your partner. Whether you are a single, newly coupled, or in a long-term relationship, I think most of us can agree that making out is super fun! It’s exploratory, it’s fun, it’s care-free, and it makes you feel good. One of life’s simplest pleasures is a simple, quick kiss: so of course making out is much, much more satisfying. But just how important is it, really?
This week, we talked about all making out with your partner. Whether you are a single, newly coupled, or in a long-term relationship, I think most of us can agree that making out is super fun! It’s exploratory, it’s fun, it’s care-free, and it makes you feel good. One of life’s simplest pleasures is a simple, quick kiss: so of course making out is much, much more satisfying. But just how important is it, really?
Actually, extremely important, according to research. Marko read a really great article that compared taking a moment to kiss to a moment of meditation. As you heard on the show, I found that to be fascinating. Marko is sitting next to me right now. I’m gonna go meditate :)
Blowjob Sh!t
This week, we talked about all things oral sex. It was a real mouthful of a conversation ;) I’ve honestly always been a huge fan of the act and immediately took to it as a teen. I understand that it is not everyone’s favorite dish at the restaurant but I’ve always ordered from that part of the menu, whether it was an appetizer or the main course!
This week, we talked about all things oral sex. It was a real mouthful of a conversation ;) I’ve honestly always been a huge fan of the act and immediately took to it as a teen. I understand that it is not everyone’s favorite dish at the restaurant but I’ve always ordered from that part of the menu, whether it was an appetizer or the main course!
Marko made, as he always does, many excellent points when it comes to this topic. And while we fundamentally agree about the importance of oral sex in a relationship, we differ on some key points. That’s alright, of course, but I wonder where you, the listener, stand (or sit…or lay sideways!) on this issue. Are you pro-oral all the time? Is it a prelude that you eventually drop from your repetoire? Was it never an option? Write in and let us know! Text and voice only, please: no videos :)
Porn Sh!t
This week, we talked about porn viewing and appreciation within a relationship. Marko and I debate the general topic of whether porn is healthy, a hindrance, or a handicap, whether one is single or partnered. How much is too much? Is there such a thing? By what yardstick do you measure the issue? You might be surprised by what the research says (although causality has, of course, yet to be established one way or the other).
This week, we talked about porn viewing and appreciation within a relationship. Marko and I debate the general topic of whether porn is healthy, a hindrance, or a handicap, whether one is single or partnered. How much is too much? Is there such a thing? By what yardstick do you measure the issue? You might be surprised by what the research says (although causality has, of course, yet to be established one way or the other).
Since our guests this week were producers from the podcast network, our other conversations were with each other. We discussed the topic further, exploring the unhealthy parts of visual sexual fantasies, including our own negative experiences with adult entertainment. We also played a hilarious game based on the most recent gay adult entertainment awards. You really don’t want to miss this episode…and you should write or call in! We would love to hear what you have to say on this divisive, personal topic. We always love hearing from you!
Criticism Sh!t
This week, we talked about criticism within relationships…and at work…and within the family, internally, from strangers…pretty much everywhere! Listen in as we both push each other’s buttons and boundaries! The topic is a tough one for a lot of us, myself included. While we explore various aspects of the idea on the podcast, you really have to be a Patreon patron if you want to get the full story on this difficult discussion.
This week, we talked about criticism within relationships…and at work…and within the family, internally, from strangers…pretty much everywhere! Listen in as we both push each other’s buttons and boundaries! The topic is a tough one for a lot of us, myself included. While we explore various aspects of the idea on the podcast, you really have to be a Patreon patron if you want to get the full story on this difficult discussion.
Here is a bit of a preview: Marko and I have fundamentally different approaches to this topic. He believes in being blunt and speaking with only the issues in mind. I believe in framing the comparison against established values and a vision. Marko thinks that criticism can be constructive; I believe in positive reinforcement. Listen in as we have what I believe to be one of our greatest debates on the single greatest division within our relationship. You don’t want to miss this one!