Support Sh!t

This week, we talked about being a supportive person to your partner. Were you all as surprised as we were to discover that we had not been supporting one another the way that each of us actually needs? I know that I was floored. Marko and I so often are spinning our wheels, expending massive amounts of energy trying to do what we think is right, only to discover that we have wasted much of our effort doing things that do not matter to the other person. Do you ever feel like you are doing this?

I liked how we used the love languages piece to tie all of this together. I know that I will work harder on my acts of service, rather than doing what I think Marko actually wants. We just had some guests over for the weekend and I have stripped the bed, done three loads of laundry, cleaned the kitchen, picked up around the apartment, walked the dog, and cleaned out the cat litter so that Marko can come home and work on some social media stuff. Let’s see if he finds that more supportive! I hope so: if not, its back to asking what he needs and doing exactly that.