Whole Sh!t

This week, we talked about being a whole person before getting into a serious relationship. There is this concept that two people come together to make each other whole. One person rescues the other and then things fade to black. But what happens after the fairy tale? Nobody ever talks about that: the work, the compromise, the fighting, the learning…things that challenge two whole people. While all relationships can help us grow and get closer to becoming who we are, Marko and I think that it is important to dispel the idea that a relationship somehow completes you.

It is very unlikely that a relationship will last unless you enter it having a very good sense of who you are and what you value. Again, you can grow together with another person but it is equally likely that you will grow apart if you do not know who you are. I don’t want to say that it is impossible to find an incredible relationship while learning about yourself: but there is a foundation of who we are that should be fundamentally and fully explored before expecting to know how to be with another person honestly and for a long time. We will continue to grow throughout our lifetime and, if we chose our partner wisely and as a whole person, our partnership will grow as well. By being a whole person before we get into a serious relationship, we will have chosen a partner with whom we can grow together.