Positions Sh!t

This week, we talked about positions, a topic I thoroughly enjoyed turning on its head (see what I did there?). We humans are so silly in how we constantly try to slice things, smooth out the edges, place them in a box, and slap a label them.  I get it: it’s helpful to name stuff in order to understand it. It’s also very limiting and takes away the best parts of a thing. The beauty is in the grey, not the black and white.

We are such a society of bisectors and dichotomists. I’m guilty of buying into the binary: I, too, in my early days as a fledgling queer, only saw my options as top or bottom. Then along came vers…but of course it still had its friendly and familiar suffixes vers bottom or vers top. I do like the article we read and the idea of being a side. The continued use of directions but in a subversive way is so fun to me. Much like our evolving sense of gender and sexuality, so too should our view of roles in sex be: fluid, open, and pleasurable. Go break some boundaries ;)