Finance Sh!t

This week, we talked about finances. Specifically, what to do when one partner makes more than the other. We analyzed and debated the 50/50 method versus the percentage of income method. We dance around the conversation of an increase in salary equitability due to a raise and what that does to the dynamic of the relationship. We flirted with the idea of making more money and whether that justified a revisiting of the household budget. In short, we tackled one of the greatest relationship issues that there is for any partnership: money.

It is a tough topic, especially for me. Our listeners know about my previously toxic relationship with money that has only become healthier not too long ago. So when Marko started earning more money, it was difficult for me to celebrate and be as present as I should. And he noticed. And commented. It is not because I was jealous or felt some imbalance in my worth to the household. It wasn’t really anything that I could understand, honestly. Unti I gave it some time. Now, I realize what the issue was: I couldn’t believe that it was real. Abundance was so absent from my life for so long that I couldn’t recognize it as anyting other than a fairy tale. And that wasn’t fair to my husband. Or to me. Or to our relationship. We deserve everything that we are getting. And I look forward to learning how to navigate these new waters. Anybody able to identify with what I’m experiencing or how I’m feeling?