Cheating Sh!t

This week, we talked about cheating in a committed relationship. Personally, I think of cheating as a symptom, not a disease. Couples can often find themselves in an unhealthy pattern that leads one of them to stray. Whether that is poor communication, a lessening of intimacy, holding a grudge, harboring thoughts and feelings that are toxic, or fearing ‘being the bad guy’ and ending something that has run its course. In my opinion, people cheat because they are expressing something that they could not or did not know how to express in any other way.

That does not make it okay. Cheating, however you define it, is not acceptable behavior. It hurts. Sometimes so much that you cannot forgive the partner for what they did. And, as I always say, there are way too many steps to ‘accidentally’ cheat on someone. It means something if you did. The question is, do you want to do the work and try to save a relationship, or is the action so unforgivable that you have no choice but to end things. There is no right or wrong answer. You have to decide that for yourselves. I hope that you never experience this.